Win Won One

2 02 2010

Love Streams

“You give away enough of what people need and you get what you want in life.” I don’t know who said it first but I’m not taking credit for it. Since I started this journey of “listening in slow motion” I’ve been content to discover every day what makes me excited and joyful. Guided by the whispers and shouts I’ve found solace in art and the people who make it.

Like a child with her head pressed against the display windows on New York’s 5th Avenue, I’ve been yelling and pointing, “mommy I want that!” Peering at art online, in galleries and stalking any artist who would talk to me.

As Tina Fey would say, “I want to go to there.” I want in on the whole experience.

Art inspires me to write what I know and feel, it helps me express how I think and process what comes next. The consultant in me yearned to climb inside this world and see what makes it go, but one thing my place in the social media revolution is teaching me; give first.

So I’m taking an apprenticeship with a local artist/gallery owner here in Santa Monica. I’m excited and terrified by the opportunity. I’ll be able to offer what I know in the way of marketing and social media and plan to absorb as much as possible about the art world in the process. I’ve found a key to open the lock on mommy’s purse strings, so to speak.

Tomorrow feels a bit like the first day of school. A new class, new students, a whole new environment. But it’s much the same as back in my old consulting days starting a new project at the bottom of the learning curve. You have to climb one foot in front of the other like anyone else.

On my journey of doing what I love to get what I need, I’d say I’m still rounding the bend, a long way from the straight away, but the breeze feels good on my face.





Time Master Value

9 12 2009

Time is a commodity. I consider it a luxury item when you get to do with it what you want and not what you have to do. If I could bottle it and sell it, I’d be a billionaire.

My older son is in seventh grade and I recently sat in on a seminar to help him be more organized. During the session the facilitator informed us that our children either had good time management skills or they didn’t. He called it “sequencing,” or the ability to count backwards from a deadline and plan activities to meet the deadline. This valuable skill was given (or not given) to our children by us; the parents.

Being on time is genetic?

Not to worry, he assures us. If we are big bags of constant lateness and disorganization then it is just important that we identified this behavior in our children so we can address it, and teach them these skills. I’m thinking to myself, isn’t that the blind leading the blind? How the heck are the parents supposed to suddenly master time management and help teach this to their kids?

I took this class several months ago, but I’ve recently been contemplating time as a luxury. The more efficient we are at completing the things in life we have to do the more luxury time we have. “Time masters” are more valuable commodities.

The bright light I took away from the middle school organization class is that “identifying” disorganization and time management as an issue makes it easier to discuss and improve. This skill deficit is often masked by perceived symptoms;  procrastination, laziness, irresponsibility.

I don’t believe people are genetically any of these things. We just need to improve our skills set with the activities that work best with our personality.

Becoming a “time master” increases our brand value. We have more luxury time for ourselves and higher brand perception with others. Taking the time to organize pays.





Regreet Data

28 11 2009

This image spoke to me immediately when I laid my eyes on it. It uses many images from my past that speak to me. All are objects I loved at different times in my life; butterflies (before my peacock phase), color palate, fierce shoes, edgy style. I’m drawn to this vocabulary naturally.

Then I tried to attach meaning to the vocabulary and a story to the image. Nothing stuck.  The artist fails to evoke emotion. The objects don’t hold together in a meaningful way, it lacks interpretation. The piece speaks volumes and says nothing.

It reminds me of my research analyst days, sifting through data, tasked with turning data into information to tell a story that would improve business performance. “Correlation does not mean causation,” was the constant mantra.

It’s important to gather meaningful information to sustain growth and continue to improve performance. Am I talking business or life? Can’t help it, both.

Regret is a useless emotion. I do believe we can regreet our past and review the actions to interpret data and gain information to use going forward.

This second image does a better job of  illustrating my point. It has the same vocabulary as the first, yet the imagery elicits emotion. It feels as though I’m looking back to review my past under protection of the present. Comfortably regreeting the data to gain understanding for my future walk through life.

I love art that elicits emotion and tells a story that I can interpret using my information. Data is only input, we must interpret its meaning to inform our growth. If we don’t get it the first time; regreet.





Focus

27 11 2009

Distraction is a comforting companion. I used it often to procrastinate on the important or clutter my activities. I find focus an illusive friend. Actually, focus does not play so hard to get, focus paired with prioritization are a rare coupling.

In all my years of consulting prioritization and focus is one of the most important problems to tackle first in business. This applies in life too.

If you sit down and think about all the things you want to work on in your life, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. But if you get pragmatic and make a list, you can pick one thing to focus on; the most important thing.

My guess, if you give laser focus to that one thing in your life and fix it, just that one thing, many other things will change on their own.

Laser focus. No distractions.

Another important point about focus, in business and life, is sticking with what you know. We’re all more confident when we know what we’re talking about and we are more comfortable in our own skin when we are confident about what we can deliver. Stay close to your base and build your skill set.

I’m laser focused on staying centered and enjoying diving deeper into my skills. Distraction will be lonely for a while.





Visceral References

19 11 2009

The uplifting visceral connection I have with the color palate in peacock feathers has been the inspiration for my wardrobe choices for several years. It culminated in my design and creation of a costume to host my recent Halloween party revealing the Peacock as my alter ego.

At first I connected with the colors individually; green, blue, then indigo. I then began to wear layers of color in odd combination. I didn’t realize they existed in one object until I happened upon a piece of jewelry while style myself for a recent Twitter conference I attended.

Visceral connections to objects and people are the driving force in my life and in business. It’s often stated that women (and some guys) are too emotional. I have come to believe that it’s not emotion that I’m acting on, but a literal physical response to a person or situation.

People can make me feel sick to my stomach or euphoric and motivated; in person or just conjuring up a thought. This isn’t emotion, this is visceral. It affords me good instinct and foresight. For example, the thought of a person can make me feel nauseous, but lessons learned and positive experiences are easily remembered.

Applying visceral references to people and events in my life help to take emotion out of it. It allows me to logically see the greatness in experiences and keep positive memories, leaving feelings like sadness or anger for the non-verbal and physical part of my brain to process.

These visceral references in business an in life allow me to strut forward like a peacock, guiding me toward the useful insight and making me keenly aware of the rest. Regarding my choice in color palate; I’m pretty sure I’m over my peacock phase now; can’t wait to feel what moves me next.





Whole New World

18 11 2009

I found this image when searching for a world map to use in a marketing presentation I was creating at my last corporate job. It took everything in me not to use it; okay, my colleagues talked me down. I thought it was perfect. Can’t you just picture the overlays of arrows and diagrams illustrating the target locations in the world campaign for the Fortune 500 company we were pitching. Surely I would have everyone’s attention.

The world on an ass. There is something to be said for a perfect ass, it makes you think of the world as a better place. You don’t think of war, or hunger, or disease. Your right brain just takes over with free association.

Taking universal content and placing it on a new stage gains attention and frees the mind to think in new ways. Our problems in this economy are new, (everyone is batting the phrase “new economy” all over the place for this reason.) Allowing the left and right brain to work in unison is the only way we will solve them.

Free your thinking, merge your knowledge centers and tackle our challenges in this whole new world.





Visually Yummy

6 10 2009
Chained Down by Kathryn Keys

Chained Down by Kathryn Keys

Art mixed with words is what I call a “visually yummy” experience.

Thought leaders are focused so intently on the content that it is a thrill to work with them on the framing and the images that can draw attention to their words.

I realized recently that strategy and introspection are good, but they can begin to feel a bit stifling for a personality like mine. Strategic process is great, but an 80% plan executed is better than a 100% plan laying on a table. The painting “Chained Down” by Kathryn Keys illustrates this point perfectly.

My work with authors and thought leaders delivers a “visually yummy” experience. Audiences come away sated.





Listening in Slow Motion

2 10 2009
Paper Clay Sculpture - Figures and Features, Meinsje Vlaming

Paper Clay Sculpture - Figures and Features, Meinsje Vlaming

I have recently adopted a slower pace of living, choosing a more focused, less cluttered life. I find myself saying the words, “no thank you,” more often to projects. I used to believe that exceeding expectations in business meant taking on every project; immediately. This may have been productive but it was very noisy.

The noise and busyness made it difficult to be introspective and long term focused. It is a luxury to be still, but I find great value and inspiration there. I was constantly guided by my daily task lists checking off one “to do” after another. What I realized is this was only the illusion of productivity, but when I looked up, I had no idea where I really want to go?

In the stillness I found a silence that allows me to hear myself and inspiration from brilliant people I painstakingly built relationships with throughout my career. Instead of checking off tasks, I “do nothing,” engaging thoughts, taking ideas to places I never had time for before. The projects I take on relate only to goals streaming from my mind.

The natural balance my life is beginning to take on is in slow motion compared to before, yet I feel more productive and fulfilled.

Building relationships is like modeling clay. In the beginning an artist can see a block of clay’s potential, just as one can assess another person’s attributes and gifts. The artist begins to shape and warm the clay just as two people who converse begin to form a relationship. Building a relationship, like sculpting, is an art form and contains its own surprise and mystery. Therein lies the beauty, but there is still some mystery about the potential for the piece and the relationship. Will it be a great master piece, end in a profitable business deal? It depends on the amount of effort and how well the two characteristics match from the start, and a little luck and chemistry don’t hurt. Of course, it still comes back to listening in slow motion and focusing on important goals.

Be luxurious and take time to “do nothing.”





Optimizing Life

16 09 2009
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Photograph by Journey Streams

I was once called by one of my dear friends, “The Optimizer.” It never occurred to me that managing your calendar for work, personal, and home in three different colors on your iPhone wasn’t a normal part of everyone’s thought process and daily habit. The reason for her comment however, was not in response to something I was doing in my life, but because of recommendations I was giving to her. I have always been a consultant, starting in business school, “classically” trained by one of the big five and branching out to a start-up, so it is second nature for me to improve upon business processes, strategy and marketing. I never realized that I do this constantly in my daily life and in the lives of my friends.

I am a creative at heart. In fact, my father, appalled when I announced I was going to business school, responded “but what about your dance, what about your art?” Not a typical response from a father I know, but you can imagine, with a name like Love, I don’t have typical parents. Because of this passion for the arts I have always attracted creative people to me. All of my closest friends are artists; painters, photographers, clothing designers, writers, DJs. What I have found over the years is my relationship with these people is hugely fulfilling ultimately because we each fill something in the other the empty spaces in each other. Me with my organization, business savvy and marketing know how, and them with their fearless ability to put their heart into their creative work and on public display. I so admire this quality.

Optimizing life with friendships balanced in such an equal sharing of brilliance is much more fun than optimizing a business or marketing strategy, but I am finding I am equally adept at both.